Tuesday, April 4, 2017

Helping Your Husband By Being Positive

I am "updating" my entry titled "What a Husband Needs Help With."  Here's the original post on the matter.


There are many things a husband needs a wife for, needs help with.  The most important reason and goal behind doing all these things that a wife should have as a motive is thinking about him.  A husband needs a wife to keep his house clean, cook his meals well, keep a budget, and take care of his health.  Keeping a house clean is easy when I use the guide I placed on the fridge next to the menu planner.  I feel I can accomplish what needs to be accomplished at a manageable, non-overbearing pace.  I have wanted to cook better lately, and I know whatever it takes to gather recipes and record the needed items on a grocery shopping list can be done.  Before I was married, I had educational training from a couple different sources on budgeting.  I have desired for a while in our marriage to put the teaching into practice.  Slowly, some things are coming together which are allowing me to come along beside him in this way.  While it is in the process of coming together, I have a handy file folder where I have designated a place for receipts gathered after items are purchased for the current month.  Taking care of my husband’s health is a joy, as I feel it is one of the top ways to love him, wanting him to live a good, long life.


Update: 
Wow, I really don't know why I didn't "tie in" more spiritually on this topic.  No matter what I was thinking when I wrote that post, I do now think that joy and positivity is what a husband needs help with, or rather better said "How a wife can help her husband most."  Things have changed quite a bit in our marriage since I wrote that entry.  I am not saying any kind of change like from good to bad or bad to good, only changed.  What has changed is I have not lived up 100% to being a perfect housekeeper, cook, financial manager.  I have observed my husband's response to the shortcoming that he is quite gracious.
So true, and so true: a husband appreciates it most when his wife is positive.  I know it is possible to be a bad cook and still be positive, not good with keeping track of finances and still be positive, not good with keeping a clean house and still be positive.  It is much easier to slip and be negative in my words than to slip and be a bad cook, bad housekeeper, bad financial manager.  It is okay to feel badly for not being a good cook, good housekeeper, and a good financial manager.  I really don't have to feel so bad about if I can't keep up to being a great cook, housekeeper, etc., on a day.  But seriously and sincerely it is much better to feel badly for not being joyful and not being positive.   


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