Understanding Unconditional Respect

     I am so excited about this revelation of discovery for wives; I have to share.  By using the word revelation, I do not mean to say I am a prophet.  Time and choices tell what I, as well as you and all wives, will do with this information I have felt has been revealed. 

     I was reading in the book Love and Respect because of the book study I am attending.  I read how wives have a hard time understanding unconditional respect, yet, we wives understand unconditional love.

     Here’s the revelation, if we wives can understand unconditional love, we can understand unconditional respect.  Any person can choose to show unconditional respect to any other person.          

     That is just as any person can choose to show unconditional love to any other person.  Think of showing unconditional respect to a given random person who comes to mind, and show that same unconditional respect to your husband. 

     Based on the simple application given on page 43 in the book Love and Respect, a wife can show respect to her husband by responding with a pleasant facial expression and tone when he is not the man she wants him to be.  Unconditional respect was hard for me to understand until I thought on applying it to others outside my family, where there is many people who I don’t think are the people they should be.  I respect them to avoid embarrassing myself.  Then I bring it back into my family and apply it to my husband. 

An Approach For Contentment

When wives think they have to own a lot of things to be happy or do other things, they might be trying to fulfill their deepest longings.  What a wife really is searching for to be content, joyful, and peaceful is to fulfill that she is pleasing to her husband and respects him.  A few weeks ago, I was thinking how I have so much stuff I need to accomplish.  I began to think on 1 Timothy 6:8 which says "With food and raiment, let us therewith be content."  The Bible helps all relationships, mostly each individual person's relationship with God.  I was wondering how it might help a wife in a marriage relationship, wanting to please her husband.  Eventually it would be good to get done the things on my to-do list, but I can rest in contentment with food and clothes first... if you're ever discouraged with a load of care in a to-do list in a day, take a couple peaceful restful deep breathes and let them out then concentrate on the laundry and food preparation or dishes.  Those priorities would be complete, you can be content at that moment, and consider how you might love and respect your husband.  Plan on giving him a back massage at the end of his work day.  :)