Happiness

Happiness, the most important aspect in a relationship.  It's a moral obligation and an easy reach!

Let me explain... not as an expert do I explain.  As an observer and as a hopeful dreamer do I explain.  I have observed many friend's lives, friends who I will leave unnamed but whose views and values I will alude to.  And I "dream" (think, ponder these possibilities) knowing if I only apply what I am throwing out there will the dreams come true.

1) The most important aspect in a relationship...
relationship with yourself.... You are the one who will benefit most from your choice to be happy, as it is a choice.
relationship with your spouse... this is who will benefit second from your choice
relationship with your children.... who will benefit third, and
a relationship with others (friends)... this is who will benefit fourth.... (collectively you and your friends, 'cause ultimately, it will mean you are a friend and you will have friends, which we need for the benefit of our souls).

2) It's a moral obligation.  It is a moral obligation because it affects those around you and is apart of doing unto others as you prefer others to do to you.  Mainly, a person generally likes to be around a happy person, so to obey the golden rule, someone would choose happiness (be that happy person). 

3) It's an easy reach.... how can I be happy?  It may not seem an easy reach to those that are not content, but I do believe that happiness is really possible for anyone, and in any situation.  You have to make it happen.  And it is a decision.
By accepting the way God made me.  If I am happy with myself, I will be happy with others.
By choosing things to do to make me happy... to get that energy to fuel myself to give to share the happiness and contagious enthusiasm with others!
Here I am writing a list of things that will keep me happy and content, things I desire.  To spread energy, you gotta keep feeding yourself the happiness.  By the way, it is not selfish to desire the happiness.  What is selfish is choosing to be unhappy and providing a miserable atmosphere for everyone around you to be in.  Because I want to be more happy, choose happiness as it is indeed a moral obligation and vital for every relationship I have, I am choosing to construct a list of things that make me happy.  Nothing wrong with thinking on these things, either, and being happy as I am trying to achieve them.
* Get a six-pack... the health in this in itself, keeping myself fit, will help me to be a harder, more diligent worker and that in and of itself brings satisfaction and happiness.
* Sing more around the house, songs I like... worship songs to Jesus, or others meaningful songs or tunes.
* Be more taming of my tongue.... show friendliness and be a positive energy-giving person to those I meet showing care and not being self-focused.
* Start looking at Christmas songs and lyrics half way through or earlier than that in the year.  I know of two people who look forward to Christmas part way through the year!  And one of them right after Christmas!  Nothing wrong with having "Christmas in your heart" all year long!
* Give gifts away to make others happy (and yourself happy).  I've noticed a great happiness that comes around Christmas time planning, deciding, anticipating the facial response to those who are receiving your gift on Christmas day...  Why not enjoy it all year long... and make sure I accept the happiness I am giving myself because of this and give it to others.
* If there is a nutrition for your body that helps it be healthy, therefore letting you function in happiness better, do not neglect it.  Make it happen to prioritize it getting into your body for utmost happiness!
 
With all my sincerity, have a happy new year.

Good and bad days

Marriage is good for many reasons!  One of them is that when one is having a good day, they can be there and talk to the other if they are not so having a bad day.  That is why it is good to work on a team with others and not work alone.  It is that way for marriage in which your spouse and you work together for life, whereas co-workers work with you temporarily.  Some do not get to work with others at an employment position.  And there are some who do not have a spouse (not getting to work together in life).  A new perspective for you is that if you are struggling with seeing a helpful side to your marriage and marriage position/relationship, see it with gratefulness that you are not working alone.  Take up the opportunity for diffusing of "bad days."  If it's your husband with the bad day and you are having a good day, talk to him and make him smile or laugh.  It it's you with the bad day, still see this perspective and talk to your husband to receive encouragement.  A suggestion to get encouragement from him during your bad day is to ask his counsel or advice about something... and call it that to his face... "Can I have your counsel/advice on _______?"  I used to feel good and bad days weren't acceptable, that all days had to be good... but realistically and logically, that is not how life is.  God continue to bless you all, dear wives, on this journey you have with your husband.