Sunday, August 31, 2014

Two Guests Arrive to our Home



Okay, so two entries ago, I was just finishing up organizing the office area.  The week of August 3, I was going to start organizing the nursery.  And our second baby surprised us and came August 7 two weeks earlier than the due date, totally shaking my organizing plan which has not been back in working order since!  Here’s how it happened!  I had been having teeny contractions for a few weeks prior to the birth, and the wives who’ve had children will know a little more what I’ve gone through.  The midwife came August 6 in the morning for her last check-up before I would call her for the birth.  Little did I know how close it would be from that time I would call her.  That afternoon, I phoned her telling her some real visible signs that labor could be underway shortly.  There were more signs and I kept in touch with her about it over the phone.  Contractions grew, and I chose to get her to come later that evening before midnight.  Our sweet baby girl was born in the middle of the night, mid-morning.  I didn’t get any sleep that night or the next day.  That was okay ‘cause I was so excited.  After birth recovery was so very extremely well that I was up and making phone announcements that afternoon.
I have in pride been a bit staunch toward the idea of helping my husband by being excellent in cooking and cleaning.  And this is only staunch toward the idea, not toward the cooking and cleaning very well.  I have a ways to go as far as cooking.  Cleaning is beginning to come underway.  What my husband would prefer I prioritize shows in what he said to me somewhat recently.  He said that the best way I can help him is by taking care of the children!  My pride has been loosened as I have accepted this priority rather than my own understanding and common sense (which isn’t common ha ha and doesn’t make sense).
I am going to definitely be working on spending quality time with our two daughters (our one-year-old and our newborn).  This priority, by the way, goes in line, with the last entry’s message – the good part – in that it is less stressful to prioritize Christ and those He says not to neglect, the little children.  Amidst this priority, my husband is balanced emotionally, something I can learn from, when he says that God has given us the children for a season.
Okay, so being creative is thinking of our daughters as “guests in our home” for 16 or 18 years or to whenever they get married.  This helps me to be balanced emotionally toward them.  I can be balanced emotionally by loving them as Christ commands but not being so attached that I will sob when they leave home or be the “mother-in-law nobody likes.”  I know they are not guests, like those who would spend a night or two in our home or enjoy a meal with us in our home… but they are my husband’s and my guests in that they are with us “for a season,” and we sure hope to keep in touch with them after their time with us!
Another guest who came by was my sister Bre who wrote the previous entry with me.  She was going to try to be here for the homebirth, and kept her prearranged tickets when our daughter came before she did.  Bre and I enjoyed the time together as sisters, her helping me with meals and adapting to the new work load with the two children, and she gave me a fun treat and painted my toenails a sparkly pink color.
Three and a half weeks after our second child was born, I am ready to resume the organizing plan.  I probably will stretch out each section of the house I’m organizing to being done after two weeks each rather than one week now.  I’m prioritizing the children now.

2 comments:

  1. Wow! I needed to hear that - been struggling a bit with balancing prioritizing my Little One, and accomplishing things I think are important. I actually just packed away an ongoing project that was taking too much of my attention. Now I just need to be more creative in things to do with my girlie, and how to incorporate her into what I'm doing (when it's necessary things like cooking and cleaning). Thanks for sharing!

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    1. That's right. We need to include our Heaven-sent gifts (given to us for a season) in what we are doing so they can learn.

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