Here was her entry "What Matters the Most." (I am calling her updated entry "This Matters the Most.")
When I was younger, there was a family friend that
really inspired me to be a loving and devoted wife to the man I would someday
marry. One of the things she did that made a deep impression on me was, every
day, just before her husband was supposed to get home from work, she would put
on a clean apron, fix her hair, and make sure that her little boys were clean
and ready to greet their daddy. She treated him like a king, and he, in turn,
loved her and treated her like a queen.
Now that I have a wonderful husband of my own I’ve been
thinking a lot about how to show him love and honor, and it occurred to me that
each husband is unique and values different things. While there are definitely
some basic ways that show honor to every man, my husband, and every husband out
there, has specific things that are meaningful to him, and other things that
don’t really make much difference to him one way or the other.
I was visiting with one of my friends about this
subject, and we both decided to specifically ask our husbands what mattered the
most to them when they walked in the door from a long day at work. Since then, I have asked a few other friends
for some feedback on the same question, and these are some of the different
ideas our husbands gave us: A clean and tidy house, a special kiss, just being
there to greet him and welcome him home, and a tasty dinner coming
up.
These are just a few ideas – the important thing, I
think, is to find out what your
husband values, and then do your best to give that to him lovingly and
respectfully.
Here's her updated entry:In keeping with the theme of updating past blog entries, I have been invited to update the entry I wrote titled "What matters the most". In all honesty, reading that again now a few years after I wrote it, it was a little bit convicting to me. I guess I have lost a bit of my focus on trying to make my husband's homecoming a peaceful and anticipated event, but I would definitely like to get back into that habit.
However, in light of the title "what matters the most" and the topic,
relating to our husbands, lately I've been impressed that the most important
thing I can do for my husband - and the thing that must come before all other
endeavors, is to pray for him. Because we serve a mighty God who wants only to
be asked to do mighty works in our lives, our homes, and our marriages.
Sometimes I don't really know how or what to pray for, but it's comforting to
know that I can simply ask my heavenly Father to show me how to pray for my
husband. And that, in and of itself softens my heart both to God and His
workings, as well as to my husband.
From me (Lindsey Gunther): I agree with this from my friend
