Peaceful Fulfillment

I have wanted to be a spiritual helpmeet to my man.  This means being the kind of woman who will be so devoted to him to back him up for better or for worse, in other words, whatever happens and to back him up by being a helpmeet in every way.  I want to be a helpmeet in every way--physical, emotional, and mental.  But I want to be a spiritual helpmeet.  But being a spiritual helpmeet--isn’t that being an emotional, physical, and mental helpmeet, a helpmeet in all ways possible as the Bible says “all things” when it says to wives to submit to their own husbands in “all things?”  So I think that the way to be a helpmeet which is in a spiritual way is to seek to be a helpmeet in all things.  The physical way, I think, is helping him follow the command from the Bible God says to reproduce and see to it that he has adequate food and clothes.  1 Timothy 6:8 “but having food and raiment -- with these we shall suffice ourselves.”  The emotional way, I think, is being there so he is not alone.  The mental way, I think, is helping him make decisions, being the person his heart can safely trust in.

            A few days ago, I was blessed to know that my purpose on earth is being accomplished.  My husband has to do some shoveling under the house to get it ready for winter.  If he does this before the cold, there will not be damage caused by the freezing temperatures, making for more work in the spring.  He needs to do a little every night for the next few weeks to still have a good back while getting his shoveling done, enjoy winter knowing he’s prevented more work for the spring and still have a good back.  All this he and I discussed between us, and I thought if I massaged his back every night after he shovels, it would help.  I presented the offer.  After he said, “That would motivate me,” I thought it hopeful and asked, “Does that mean I’m helping you?” 

            His answer brought a great peaceful fulfillment to my spirit: “Yes.”

Applying 1 Corinthians 13:5

            This verse is the verse that says that love does not behave itself unseemly.  I wondered what the verse meant and asked God to reveal to me what it meant through my observation of my husband.  The answer I got from God has something to do with 1 Corinthians 13:11 which says, “When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things.”  There is a difference between being childish and being childlike.  God says we all need to become as little children to enter the kingdom of heaven.   I would say being childish is being foolish.  I want to not be foolish.  My husband says the Bible should be taken literally, and I’ve read the Proverbs a lot growing up, over and over, but it didn’t have meaning in my life.  I want to read the Proverbs every day for a while and want to ask God to help me to take it literally and understand it and apply it.

Women must learn in silence, from 1 Timothy 2:11

 What does this mean?  It sounds scary… “can I not talk?”  Yes, you can. 

How do I know what 1 Timothy 2:11 means?  I’ve silently sought God.  They that seek the Lord will understand all things.  Proverbs 28:5 says, “Evil men understand not judgment: but they that seek the LORD understand all things.”  But understanding is pointless if I don’t have love.  1 Corinthians 13:3 says, if you understand all mysteries and all knowledge, but have not charity, it profits you nothing. 

But some passages I do not know what they mean, and it is better to ask my husband then to ask my friends.  Asking, though, is not being silent.  Observing is being silent.

After 1 Corinthians 13:3, that chapter describes what profits you nothing if you don’t have love.  I want to know what a verse means, specifically verse 5, “behaving itself not unseemly.”  And I don’t want it to be just head knowledge.  So I silently prayed, “Dear God, please show me through observing my husband, what this verse means.”  I’m going to observe.  Stay tuned: I get to apply it after I find out.

Something has been Changed; Something has Stayed the Same.

Hi. My name is Lindsey Gunther. I am the wife of my darling husband and the mother of two beautiful children. I am in love with the Prince of Prince, Jesus Christ Who died for me and gave me grace. This blog is about lessons I’ve learned as I raise my children. It used to be a blog more written to encourage wives to be the best possible help-meets for their own husbands, a perspective used for the first 33 entries written. Those entries have been more in the forms of articles and essays. I’ve realized I want to write more of a journal (what a blog is anyway). What also lead to this change is that my staunch pride toward the idea of only helping my husband by being excellent in cooking and cleaning has been loosened. I now want to help my husband by taking care of the children and so will journal mainly about.  I will journal a little every now and then again about the wifely side of things.  The thing that has stayed the same is my website domain.